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With this issue, the Providence Phoenix is dropping "Dr. Lovemonkey," the advice and relationship column written by longtime freelance contributor Rudy Cheeks.
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By PROVIDENCE PHOENIX | January 28, 2011

Social awkwardness

I have a bit of a problem. I am recently divorced, in my 40s, and looking to date again. However, I have a high functioning form of autism known as Asperger's syndrome.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | January 21, 2011

The world is the enemy

I'm a college student and I have an ongoing problem with relatives on the paternal side of my family. To be blunt, they are a bit more exotic than your garden variety racists ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | January 14, 2011

Piercing pride, diving into drinks, and Facebook fanatics

I am 18 and am currently in the midst of the search for my first job. I have three facial piercings and I am wondering if this will be detrimental in landing a job ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | January 07, 2011

Workplace weirdness

Some of my co-workers and I have a little problem at out office. One of the people we work with, who has always regarded himself as a real swinging guy, has finally struck gold ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | December 24, 2010

Curfews, Christmas, and the company's dime

I am a bit stumped by this matter and perhaps you can help me. My son has recently turned 18, he is a senior in high school. We have been discussing a change in his curfew time ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | December 17, 2010

Weddings, speakerphones and secrets

Recently, my husband was invited to the wedding of one of his co-workers. I found it odd that the invitation was addressed solely to him, as she has knows he is married and has met me on a few occasions.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | December 10, 2010

All due respect

There's a guy named Carson that I know at school. He is 16 and next week I will turn 14. He told me he liked me last spring and I liked him too, but it just wasn't the right time because he had a girlfriend ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | December 03, 2010

Workplace affairs and wedding woes

I am married and I very unwisely made the mistake of developing real feelings for someone who is a friend at work. The feelings appear to be mutual and, while neither of us have made a move to act on these feelings, I now realize what a terrible mistak
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | November 26, 2010

False starts

I have recently tried online dating. My last few dates have all lied about themselves in some way ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | November 19, 2010

Platonic intimacy

I recently started dating a girl who I like very much. She's attractive, smart, funny, interesting, and basically everything I've been looking for. The problem is that she has certain issues related to physical intimacy ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | November 12, 2010

Singled out

I'm 28 years old and for almost a decade now I've been a vegetarian. Not a vegan, a vegetarian. Still, members of my family give me a hard time about this by making me feel that I am somehow weird ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | November 05, 2010

Maternal instincts

Do you have any tips on how to deal with some people's insensitivity or, probably more accurately, "tone-deafness"? I have two adopted children and on far too many occasions, people will say things in front of them like, "This is your real mom."
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | October 29, 2010

Parental disapproval

I am a 21-year-old woman who is still living at home with my mother and stepfather. I am a lesbian and am currently in a relationship. The only problem I have is that neither my mom nor her side of the family approves of my orientation . . .
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | October 22, 2010

Sore losers and workplace woes

My boyfriend is great and our relationship is great, but there is one complication. He has a brother who is two years older and they are very close. In general, his brother is a great guy but they are very much into competitiveness ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | October 15, 2010

Nervy neighbors

For the past few years, my wife and I have been very friendly with a family that lives across the street — a husband, wife, and their two young children (ages 4 and 6). Until recently, I've assumed that they were what they appeared to be — a happily mar
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | October 08, 2010

College kids get confidence

I’m a junior in college and am doing an internship at a nonprofit organization. Last week my boss, who has always been very professional, asked me if she could talk to me outside of work for something that was not work-related.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | October 01, 2010

Getting friendly

I have suspected for some time that my wife’s friendship and interest in one of our neighbors was a bit more than innocent ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | September 24, 2010

Loudmouths and liars

A couple of years ago, I met a man who I fell in love with. Although it was a long-distance relationship, he wooed me ardently for months — until his wife called ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | September 17, 2010

Acting lessons needed

I am 38 years old, relatively good-looking, and in basically good shape. My wife and I met when we were both 22 and gradually got to know each other. We dated for seven years, and finally married. My problem is that I no longer find her physically attr
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | September 10, 2010

Dr. Lovemonkey: Fantasies and fakers

I am a college student in my mid-20s and have been married for two-and-a half years to my husband, who is wonderful and who I adore. Here is my weird problem: for many years I've had a hopeless crush on Al Pacino.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | September 03, 2010

Pushy people

I am a 14-year-old girl with a big problem. There's a popular girl in my class who tells me that everything I like is evil, and that I shouldn't like this or that because when I die I will go to hell.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | August 27, 2010

High standards

My girlfriend and I have been living together and now, after about a year and a half, we've been talking about marriage. She's really great and we have a lot of love for each other, but there is one thing that I am hesitant about.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | August 20, 2010

Unsavory at any speed

I've been going out with a guy for almost six months and we get along fine except for one thing. Whenever I'm riding in the car with him ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | August 13, 2010

Too many secrets

I'm a 20-year-old female and I've been living with my fiancé for two years, ever since we became engaged. I love him but I am no longer interested in having sex with him. Meanwhile, I have found myself attracted to my dentist.
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | August 06, 2010

Brutal honesty

My boyfriend really likes women with large breasts and I like guys with big dicks. We were wondering ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | July 30, 2010

Screw logic

My boyfriend has what I consider a rather unusual attitude about apologizing. He has told me that he believes an apology is only required if the action in question is done intentionally ...
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By DR. LOVEMONKEY | July 23, 2010

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